Day 276 - That's Life

I am deleting people from Facebook. I keep getting invites and random emailings from people when I don't even know them, talk to them or live in the same state. It's refreshing.

I watched the show Gelson is on. I didn't see him, but I had a hard time paying attention. It was so boring. Not even trashy, dumb good. Just dumb. And I can watch some pretty dumb stuff. It looks like it was shot in the '90s. I don't know if I can watch another episode to look for him again.

On the other hand, Degrassi was great! As usual. I can't wait for next week.

The Brit and I were going to try to hang out this weekend, but he's been swamped with projects, etc. He did ask to see me this afternoon, but Legal Eagle and I are going Halloween shopping and I needed to finish my work before. Plus I'm kind of annoyed with him. He just isn't making much of an effort and just says "I'd love to see you," "Can't wait to see you," etc. instead of actually trying to see me. I don't know how I feel about it, but I do know that not hearing from him in between dates is no longer acceptable. He said he'll text me early this next week to make plans, so we'll see. I didn't respond.

However, not hanging out with the Brit has been great for my productivity. I am ahead on work, able to blog and did some cleaning.

I can't wait to go shopping for my Halloween costume. No idea what I will be, but who cares!

That's all in my life.

Oh! Wait, I ran into Neighbor this week. Haven't seen him since sometime in August. He is still "with" the 19-year-old, although now she is 20. He wrote her a song for her birthday. He told me I should meet her because he thinks I'd really like her. Sorry, I don't hang out with 20-year-olds.

Now, that's all in my life.

Day 275 - The Highlight Of The Week

Degrassi comes back on TV this Friday!

Also, the show that Gelson (one coffee date guy) is on is also on this Friday!

I have no plans Friday so you know where I will be.

I'm so freaking excited.

That is all.

Day 263 - I'll Have To Tune In

Remember Gelson? The grocery store, coffee date, call two months later for a second date guy?

Well, he had mentioned that he was going to be on some Teen Nick show on our date. And...it's now coming to TV. I saw previews and thought the name sounded familiar so I imdb'd it and it was the one!

It looks bad, but also good bad. However, he isn't in the preview...small part? But I'm excited to see it and almost wish it would be a hit so I could be like, I went on a date with him and he's totes lame. And called me two months after our first date.

The above: reasons to love LA.

Day 246 - Now THIS Is Blogworthy

OK, here is what I did last night:

Worked out with Legal Eagle, ate dinner, watched Top Chef DC, got a call from Gelson, went to bed.

Say what?! Yes, I worked out. Oh, the call. Yeah.

Gelson, for those who do not remember, was a guy who picked me up at the grocery store. We then went on a coffee date to which he never asked for a second date until...we ran into each other and he said that he was going to call. Then he texted later that week and was like, "I'm busy, but let's do something this next weekend." All in all, not impressed, so I never responded.

So, LE and I were in her room watching TV when he called. We both freaked and I let it go to voicemail. No way a phone-phobe like me can handle a weirdo conversation like that.

I would transcribe the voicemail for you, but it was the longest voicemail I have ever received (and LE is known for her long voicemails).

______________________________________________________________

Here are the main points:

Hey Molly, we haven't talked in awhile. (No shit.)

I've actually seen you around the neighborhood. (WTF?! When? And why are you admitting this??)

I've been out of town for a couple weeks. (We haven't talked for a couple months.)

I still want to go to the planetarium. (Then go, don't let me stop you.)

Talk to you soon, Mol. (Ew, name shorten so soon?)

______________________________________________________________

Honestly, we haven't talked since some time before LE's birthday which makes it close to two months I'm guessing.

And the seeing me thing? Thing is, I've taken special paths and kept my eyes open and anticipated seeing him in hopes of being prepared to avoid it. So how is he seeing me and I haven't seen him once?

But really, the best part of this is trying to figure out what possessed him to call, so here are my thoughts:

- He is bored and hasn't had any lady prospects since me.

- He saw me recently and I was looking particularly foxy.

- He's seen me walking alone and thinks maybe I'm bored and he would have a chance to get me to go back to his place this time around.

- He was going through his phone and stumbled upon my number, previously forgetting that I existed.

- He had been drinking.


Well, needless to say it made for an awesome, random moment. But now I have to take even more out-of-the-way paths to avoid him because I'm not going to respond. Oh boys, when will you learn, a girl likes to hear from you at least once a month. Think you can manage?

Moving on, going to Solvang this weekend as my birthday gift to LE! So excited, no time to deal with all this silly boy stuff.

Day 225 - Thank God I Have Stuff To Do

I'm upset with Neighbor. Is this anything new? Yeesh.

Here's the short story. He sent me a text Wednesday night. We went back and forth and I eventually asked what he was doing the next night (Thursday). He said he was hanging out with a friend earlier in the night, but maybe we could watch a late movie. I said we could see, but that I didn't want to interrupt his plans with his friend.

Skip to Thursday night. Neighbor sends me a text (around 10, maybe) and asks how my night is. I reply and ask about his. He says his friend got sick so he's just been hanging out at home watching some movie. He asks what I'm doing and I reply.

Now I feel a little insane, but why did he not ask me to hang out when he found out his friend was sick? And if he wanted a night to himself, which I totally respect that need, why did he tell me he was up to nothing or even bother texting me? He hasn't even made any attempt to spend any time with me. Hasn't asked what I'm up to this weekend. Nothing.

I assume he'll get in touch with me today or this weekend and he'll be getting one-word responses. (NOTE: When Legal Eagle and I are mad at boys we respond to everything in one or just a few more words. It's our favorite thing to do and it gets the point across. It's interesting to see how quickly they catch on.) But if he is interested in me, he has the worst way of showing it. Or rather no way of showing it.

SIDE NOTE: Earlier this week, I made a promise to myself that I would not be initiating any contact with him because I want him to do some of the work. It has worked, although he hasn't tried to make any date, so that hasn't worked.

So, I will continue to not text or call first. Luckily, I'll be very busy this weekend getting the rest of my outfit for LE's '80s birthday party, decorations and planning the awesome birthday cake/cakes I am in charge of. And some other boring chores/work.

GELSON UPDATE: He sent me a text yesterday. Said he was all busy this week and maybe we could go out Sunday night. Puh-lease. As LE said when I told her the exact text: I hate it when guys try to make it seem like you are an inconvenience in their busy schedules. Because it takes so long to send a text?

OK, we will catch up more later bloggity blog.

Day 224 - I Swear, I Did Stuff This Weekend...Maybe?

OK, I feel like I watched a lot of TV this weekend and laid around, but I know I did stuff!

Saturday: First, breakfast at The Waffle with Legal Eagle. Yum! I had a waffle with bacon cooked in it. Yes, that is an awesome concept.

Then we went '80s shopping at Out of the Closet and Vintage Iguana. It was way successful. Don't worry, there will be pictures!

Then I think I laid around and watched TV the rest of the day.

Oh wait! No, no. I went to the grocery store at some point and ran into Gelson! I knoooooooww! UPDATE: I did not hear from Gelson after our date on Tuesday. He then tells me he was going to call me Sunday (5 days later?!) and kind of asks me on a date. I mumble some sort of lame response. Haven't heard anything more. I'd be bummed if I had really liked him. Phew!

Sunday: Called mom!

Go out to grab lunch at Sweet Love Hangover with Neighbor. Discover that they are now closed on Sundays. Perfect.


We ended up grabbing hot dogs and fries at Skooby's after I mention how I've wanted to go but have been too scared to go. Had a nice time with Neighbor despite the food not being all that great. Walked around Hollywood for a little bit and told Neighbor how I will someday get a stress test done at the Scientology building. He won't go with me. :(

Then, well, I laid around and watched TV. Nice.

Day 219 - My Coffee Date With Gelson...And Other Updates

OK all, here we go!

First, as I was getting ready to go, I grabbed a hammer to put in my purse. Legal Eagle was at her bf's place, so I would be heading home alone with no one around to meet me or make sure I was safe. And since this girl doesn't have pepper spray (should I buy some?), I took a hammer in case Gelson or anyone else was up to anything. And if a guy ever asks why you carry a big bag, just say to carry your hammer!

So, I went to coffee with Gelson yesterday night around 9:00. We were both on time, in fact, I think I arrived just after he did. That saved any weird waiting for either of us. I greeted him with a side, half hug. It was awkward-ish.

Then we ordered our drinks: A chai tea latte for me and for him? Any tea with lots of anti-oxidants. Yes, that's what he ordered. I snickered on the inside.

We did end up sitting in the back room where I also sat with Neighbor. Oh, and there was a couple making out in there. It was the best thing ever!

Here's what I've learned about Gelson:

- He's An Actor! Yes, let it soak in. I finally feel like I've arrived in LA now that I've been on a date with an actor.

- He's originally from Brooklyn, but his family has since moved to Florida.

- He's been out here about 5 years and has had a few recurring roles on some shows.

- He's also a personal trainer. Yes, it really does get more cliche.

- He wears a bit of man jewelry: 2 rings, watch (which is fine) and a necklace.

- He's traveled a lot.

- He loves, and I mean loves, the Lakers.

- Actually, he really likes everything. Anything I mentioned, he would be like, "Oh yeah, I like that..."

- He has a summer birthday. He's a Cancer.


OK, here is one part of the conversation I must share:

He asked me if I could have dinner with 3 people (dead or alive) who would it be? More cliche.

I chose all women which spurred on this:

Gelson: All women? You don't hate men, do you? You're not some sort of feminist, are you?

Me: Uh, well, I'd say I'm a feminist.

G: Yeah, but I mean a man-hating feminist.

Me: Well, feminism, by definition, doesn't have anything to do with hating men; it's just equal rights and fair treatment.

Normally, I'm pretty agreeable on dates/when first meeting people, but the whole feminism thing is just out-of-control. Like what? No, I'm totally not into women's rights and protection? Yeah, that sounds good.

What else?

OK, here's how the date ended. He had been telling me about the new building addition to his building. It was just recently finished. He then, quickly says, "Let's go and I'll show you the new stuff." Before I can spit out a "No thanks," he gets up from his seat and keeps talking.

I walk out with him and we head back toward my street. When we reach it, I stop and tell him I'll be heading home. He says something like, "Oh, no, we can just stop by and I'll show you the new stuff they put in." I say thanks, but that I plan to head home now. He then asks if I'm sure. Well, I'm 25 so I'm pretty sure I can make my own decisions. We then hug and head our own ways.

I felt it was a little pushy to keep asking me to go by. I get a guy is going to try, but stop asking at some point.

Overall, it was an OK date. Was there major chemistry? I'd say more like a no. I don't really have an interest in kissing him...which isn't so good for dating, I'd say. He's a bit too chatty, like hard for me to get a word in. But he asked me stuff and was nice enough.

Oh, but after the date? I skedaddled home to do a search on him now that I knew he was an actor. While it was hard to find a valid age on him, a site did have his correct birthday month and date, so if they had his correct birth year too, then he is 35! He looks young, but it could be the whole actor thing trying to seem young. Oy, 35. I know age differences work for some, but I still act like I'm 5. We'll see what happens next....


In other updates:

Neighbor called me right before I left for my date. I swear, he can smell another man around! He apologized some more and we talked, cleared the air. He's promised me a date to Sweet Love Hangover, most likely Friday or Sunday.

But, he also asked if I wanted to hang out tonight. So, we might watch a movie. He says he has a good one picked out for me. Man, I just can't stop myself from dating!


And one more update:

I got a giant screw put in my mouth yesterday at the dentist. It hurt yesterday, but now I am just sore from some shots they gave me. Yuck.

Day 218 - Stuff Your Sorries In A Sack

OK, here is what is up:

I had lunch plans with Neighbor yesterday.

1:00 rolled around (and as he had said he would call or text me before lunch) I decided to shoot him a text to confirm that we were still on.

2:45 rolled around and still no response so I texted:

"I guess we're not doing lunch."

3:20 rolled around and finally a response! He says something about how we will grab something to eat, just not lunch. Maybe something later? Or even next week?

I write back, because I want answers, asking if he was even going to bother telling me that he was canceling lunch.

He writes back that of course he was going to tell me, "have some confidence," but that he just woke up 45 minutes ago (that makes it 3:00, making it also 1 hour after the latest we were going to lunch).

I write back that I assumed I'd hear earlier considering he said we'd go out at 1 or 2.

Then he calls.

I actually missed his call because I went to the bathroom, but I did call back.

We talk. Well, mostly he talks and I give one word answers. He says how sorry he is, but that I shouldn't worry about it. He also asked if he could make it up to me or bring me dinner. I said I had plans with Legal Eagle for dinner. (I then hoped she would be around for dinner.)

I said various things such as, "I'm pissed off at you" and "Don't get sarcastic with me."

Mostly, I tried to explain to him that it wasn't him canceling on me that was wrong. I get it if you have to work or something. I'm mad because he didn't even make an effort to let me know. It was completely inconsiderate of my time and schedule. It showed me how he felt I could be treated and, whether he thinks it or not, he blew me off without a second thought.

He then asked for a date on Thursday. I said I didn't know if I wanted to go out. And to be completely honest, I'm not sure I do. I don't want to be treated this way and if I can't rely on him to do what he says he will for a simple lunch date, what can I rely on him for?

The conversation ended with that. He then called again later yesterday night and apologized some more, saying he had thought about it and realized how he probably made me feel, blah blah.

Sure, it's nice to hear "Sorry," but it doesn't change what he did or whether he'll do it again. So, I don't know. I'm sure I'll whine some more on here about this later, but I have work to do. It is Monday.

Oh, and in more inconsiderate guy news, Gelson texted me to see what was up last night...at 10:45pm. I had just gone to bed. For all he knows I'm a teacher or something and wake up super early. Plus, we barely know each other, so he has no place in texting me after 9 or 10 the latest!

I haven't responded, but will later today.

On the upside, I am getting a good opportunity to teach guys how to treat me by not letting them get away with whatever they want. Kudos to me? Why not...

Day 216 - Just Checking In

I feel sick. Not like barfy-sick, but I feel under the weather. I was sneezing all day yesterday and wrote it off as allergies. However, I feel the same today, but partnered with hot/cold feelings and being very weak. I think it's just a cold or something.

But, I wanted to check in super quick to say Hi!

Long story short, I am (pending his work schedule) going to go out to eat with Neighbor on Sunday! I suggested we go to Sweet Love Hangover. I've been dying to go since I overheard two girls say that they do a twist on comfort foods. I know he'll love it because they have Mad Libs on the menus and board games to play while you wait. I think it'll be so much fun! I'm excited to go out with him and it'll be our first meal together. I just barfed as I typed that. So lame....

Also...new guy...the one from the store? Texted me last night and eventually got around to saying we should get together for coffee next week. He said he'd be back in touch Sunday. It's nice and I like that he's made an effort. But as Legal Eagle said, "What's with guys not doing weekends?" It would have been nice if he thought I was "worthy" of a weekend get-together, but maybe he assumed it was too late to request a weekend date. Whatevs...however, he suggested coffee at the place I just went with Neighbor. It feels a little weird and wrong. Not that this is like a major date, really it's just a friend thing since we don't know each other. Stupid me hanging out with guys in one neighborhood. Bad move. Oh, and new guy's nickname on here? Gelson...named by LE as that is the store where we met.

So, tomorrow I plan on lazing around as I just want to feel all better. I'm already excited to eat and finish dinner so I can retire to my bed and watch movies on Melvin. More later when I feel like myself again!