Day 263 - I'll Have To Tune In

Remember Gelson? The grocery store, coffee date, call two months later for a second date guy?

Well, he had mentioned that he was going to be on some Teen Nick show on our date. And...it's now coming to TV. I saw previews and thought the name sounded familiar so I imdb'd it and it was the one!

It looks bad, but also good bad. However, he isn't in the preview...small part? But I'm excited to see it and almost wish it would be a hit so I could be like, I went on a date with him and he's totes lame. And called me two months after our first date.

The above: reasons to love LA.

Day 262 cont. - The Day Neighbor And I Finally Hung Out

Sooooo...Neighbor and I finally got together. I went over to his place Thursday night to see his kitten and catch up. We ended up hanging out from 10:00pm-1:30am. Yikes!

But, onto things.

We did a brief catch up when I got there and I played with the kitten. And then he began talking about his 19-year-old "stalker."

They've kind of, sort of dated. But not really. I'm not sure I get it even now. But he said they've hung out like all the time. He claims its because she just drops by and that it's weird when she does because she barely talks to him and nothing physical goes on, although they have made out early on in their "relationship." But he did call her cute and I'll admit, when he first said all this, it stung. But in a "you're an ass" way, not a "why not me?" way.

So he told me all about her and she either has a mental imbalance or is a pathological liar. She's screwed up in some way. And I think he thinks he can help or save her in some way. And I think he likes the drama. Every girl he's stuck around for has been drama.

He claims he wants to get her out of the picture, but he isn't exactly doing what he should to make that happen. Note: he leaves his door unlocked and sometimes she'll just go in even when he isn't home. Something about this is fucked up.

Also, she called him when we were hanging out. He didn't get it on time the first time she called, but then she definitely called back five seconds later. We agreed he would answer and, of course, he told her we were hanging out. Apparently she said, "Oh, OK." So I told him to not tell her where I live.

Moving on, he asked me about work and then asked if I was seeing anyone. I mentioned the Brit.

He then asked a bunch of questions about him. Name, job, where he lives, etc. I won't deny that it felt pretty great telling him about the Brit and how normal and good everything was. He teased me a bit -- a lot -- about him.

It was interesting talking to him about another guy. It was a different kind of conversation than I would have to Legal Eagle or one of my sisters. I don't know how to describe it.

But we caught up a lot and then I headed home. We hugged when I left and agreed to get together soon.

I don't know how he feels about things. I spent a lot of the time trying to figure out why I was so gaga over him. But he brought up dating someone else first, so I assume a guy who likes you wouldn't do that. I hope that he just wants to be friends because that's where I'm at and I think we could be great friends. Plus, I've never had a close guy friend. And maybe I can help him stay away from nutter butter girls.

I'll keep you updated as I try to figure this out.

Day 262 - Because I Promised To Write

I'm tired and I have to make my bed because I washed my bedding today. But I did say I would write and I will.

So tonight, we shall discuss the Brit! (Since we hung out last night.)

First, I hate calling him the Brit and would love to use his name on here, but I don't do that.

OK, but onto our dating.

I cooked him dinner last night. Yes. I did. Somehow he reverse psychologied me and I ended up making him pot stickers and chow mein.

Because my place was a mess and I needed to shower, he ended up getting there as I was still cooking. So he got to see that I'm pretty much a mess in the kitchen. But it was cute and he helped to save the pot stickers as I couldn't remember how to cook them. The chow mein, in my opinion, was much better and the first time I've ever made it. He loved dinner. Seriously.

Actually, he seems to love everything. He gets really excited about a lot of things, so I sometimes question how genuine it is, but I think that's just him.

We ate and had white wine. Luckily, he drinks white wine also so there's no need to have red and white. After eating, he did some of the dishes (some had to soak). I didn't even ask or have to point anything out, he just went at the dishes. I watched because that's pretty much the best thing ever.

Then we watched Kiss Kiss, Bang Bang. He brought over like 15 DVDs for me to choose from. He always talks through movies which is kind of great because then I know he won't get pissy if I do. But we do often have to rewind.

So, what else have I learned about him?

- I think his dad is no longer living. He mentioned, but in a mumble, that his dad would be/is rolling in his grave. I didn't ask because I couldn't form the sentence in my head in a way that didn't sound totally insensitive. But now that I think about it, he mentions only his mom often as far as recent stuff. That's sad.

- He may be getting a job! I think he's finding out tomorrow about this job that would be perfect for where he wants to go career-wise, and I think he said he should be getting it, he just needs to find out if it's full-time or not. I was so excited for him. And the job may even help him with his music stuff. I don't mind unemployment, but employment just makes everything better.

- He doesn't want to be famous. I hate LA because everyone is trying to make it in a famous way. Obviously, he wants to be successful, but he said he'd rather do songwriting/behind the scenes stuff so he could walk down the street and never have to worry. That's a relief. He also said it's because he doesn't like strangers. I don't either.

- A radio station asked him to send them his song, a week or so ago, and he hasn't! He sent me a song to listen to and I guess some station had heard some of it and wanted to check it out. I told him to send it. He hasn't because he wants to work on it. I told him to just do it because it's never actually going to be ready. But now it may be on hold because of this other job and the fact that they might help with it.

- His brother designs cars and he isn't exactly sure what his sister does, pharmaceutical something.

- He's been in two long-term relationships lately. I'm not sure when the last one ended, but he alluded to two over 3-year relationships. I'm not sure how to interpret this.

- He couldn't remember Barbar's name so as I gave him hints, he called him Bam Bam. Barbar was not pleased.

- He has played gigs in LA. He took off over half a year some time ago and just played, but then had to get back into a regular job. Apparently gigs take up time and aren't just "Oh, go to the gig for a few hours," like I thought.

- He asks me a lot about work. This is a plus.

- He's very sweet. Like "hand holding, forehead kissing, tucks your hair behind your ear" sweet. It's not bad, I'm just not used to it at all. It's a nice change, but luckily it isn't all the time.

- He thinks I'm funny. Well, I am. And he thinks I'm a good cook. I've tricked him.

- He's going to shave his scruff tomorrow.

- He's pretty patient. I got distracted a lot last night as I was cooking and he was asking me questions that he ended up having to repeat them about 5 times each. And then when I ask him about his music, he doesn't mind explaining the explanation of the explanation.

- His birthday is December 15th.


So, we're really getting along and I'm not even worrying about whether or not he likes me. I might invite him to an improv show I've been wanting to check out this week. After two movie dates, I think we need to try out something new. And the show is only $5.

OK, next post: Neighbor.

Day 261 - I Will Write Soon!

I'm going to try to update my life on here tonight, but I have tons of work to do so at the end of the night I might just feel like shutting down. If that's what happens, I promise to update this weekend. In detail.

But really quickly, movie night at the Brit's with his roomies was a success and I think I will be seeing him this weekend.

Also, I hung out with Neighbor last night and caught up. I can't wait to tell you all about his 19-year-old friend. I told him about the Brit and, oddly, I think Neighbor and I might be on our way to being good friends.

OK, back to work. Wah wah wah.

Day 260 - Time? Where Are You?

When I've had time to write in here, I haven't wanted to...probably because I've been wanting to nap instead.

But, I am doing stuff.

Work is good.

And I'm still going out with the Brit.

Let's just talk about that.

We had a date last Friday and it was great. And now, tonight, I'm going to go to his place because his roommate has some giant projector thing and is having people over for a movie night.

I have no idea what I'm in store for. I don't think I'll be meeting his really close friends, but I will meet one of his roommates who he is good friends with.

I'm not prepared at all. Plus he hasn't told me if I can bring anything. I hate showing up with nothing when you're going somewhere else, but I have no idea what I would bring.

Luckily Legal Eagle helped me choose an outfit. And luckily they have lots of pets at his place so they will be minor distractions if anything gets awkward. Which with me, I'm sure there will be a moment.

Oy.

Day 259 - I Should Be Working

But, first I want to tell you about my date with the Brit.

When it first ended I was sooooo bummed, but then after heading home and discussing the reasons I was bummed with Legal Eagle, she was able to talk me out of my insanity and helped me realize that all the reasons I was bummed weren't really problems.

I'll just quickly list the problems:

-The date was short, well, a couple of hours. We just went hiking and then hung out on a park bench and talked. That was really all that was planned, but I had thought how nice it would have been if we grabbed dinner or something. I can't hold this against him since he can't read my mind yet.

-He didn't make out with me in public. We went our separate ways on a busy street where people were definitely out watering their gardens and playing with children, so I suppose it could have been a little inappropriate.

-He didn't set the next date. LE told me how this drove her crazy about Double B, but isn't anything to be bothered over.

-He's considering heading home (out-of-state) for a bit before this other job that he might be able to line up would start in mid-Sept. At home, he has a friend with a bar that he could play at and another bar that would offer him a couple of nights. He wouldn't permanently be gone. And I'm not sure how seriously he's considering it, but he mentioned it.

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Most of this is nothing. We did talk more about jobs though.

He's still looking and I think it's bothering him a lot. I told him about a lot of the job stuff I've been through, so at least I think he knows that I get it.

But I also think it's a tricky situation because dating while you're not job-happy can be difficult. We'll see.



So, after the date he texted me just a "had fun, blah blah" thing. I felt better about everything after that. We texted for a bit and he emailed me this horrible music video he had told me about that one of his roommates edited. (The editing wasn't bad, everything else was.)

Side note: I was able to use his email address to find him on Facebook and figure out his last name! It's a perfectly acceptable last name. Unfortunately his picture is not of him so I can't send the page to my sisters to see him. And no, I can't and don't want to add him yet. But, his page is hyper-private (like I keep mine) so that's good.

Then this morning I saw an email that was sent after I went to bed that was about something we were joking about but he also attached something he had written and sung. And I liked it! I'm always worried (when dating someone who does something creative) that I'll hate what they actually do.


Oh, and last night as we texted he asked me out for tonight. We might grab a drink or watch a movie. I said I was up for whatever and that we'd figure it out today since I was headed to bed.

Hmm...so, I'm still having fun with him. He's always nice, funny, talkative and still has such good teeth!

OK, now I really do have to work!

Day 258 - Ah, Home

I'm going to mostly be working from home right now. Still with the same company, but now I get to be at home more often. Woo hoo.

Although, my schedule changes practically daily with them, but I'm prepared for whatever and they reassure me that they want to hold onto me. So we'll see.

But it is really nice to not have to go to the bus and get nicely dressed and whatever else.

Plus, today it's made it possible for me to have a date with the Brit! We've been going back and forth to schedule one and today we are going out! Well, we're going hiking. Not my first choice, but I think it'll be nice and it shows that he doesn't just want to hang out in bars with me. We'll probably go late this afternoon. I'm very excited to see him again.

OK, back to work!

Day 257 - Stop Trying To Win Me Over Mark Wahlberg!

I have a dislike for Mark Wahlberg.

It first started when I was editing an interview and he refused to acknowledge his past as Marky Mark in it. He also went on to say that those who don't have religion in their life are lost.

It then continued after I interviewed him in person and he was a bit of a bore.

Now, he's trying to change things.

I've been typing up tidbits about him for my new job and now he's saying that he would return to music for Justin Bieber.

First, I thought "Aww" because he said he'd do it for his daughter, then I thought "Awesome" because I've got major Bieber fever. And then I thought "Finally!" as he is admitting he was once in music.

Then, he was doing another interview where he said he got Bieber's number through agents and called and left a message so his daughter could talk to him. But as Bieber hasn't responded, Wahlberg said that he would handle it and just mess up his hair next time he sees him.

It may not sound funny, but picture it in your head.

So now I'm mad at Mark Wahlberg for trying to soften me. Plus he has that whole I Heart Huckabees film that I still love.

Damn.

Day 256 - Frick Frack, It's Friday!

I'm so happy it's Friday!

And even better, I don't have to go into the office today. It was a last minute change-a-roo because the girl I work with is sick and my head boss won't be in, but I am still working, just from a Starbuck's in the area and then mid-day I will get my check for the week from my boss and go home and work some more.

Also about work, my hours have changed and made me far less stressed. I'm still doing other projects so it's nice to have some breathing room. Money is still good, so there are no worries there. Whoa, never thought I'd say that. But I do know that I could be out of any job at anytime, so I'm keeping prepared.

What else? I'm really excited for this weekend. No plans at all, but I have to do a bit of work and I'm also doing some birthday shopping!

The Brit and I are still trying to get together. Our schedules have mismatched all week, me busy at the beginning and him swamped now. But, we're looking toward something next week and I think he really wants to...well, he said he is really looking forward to seeing me again. I'm excited and I think we'll make it happen.

I finally figured out my new iPod a little. At least I figured out how to turn it on and stuff. Ha! But I plan to spend some quality time with it this weekend. It's cute and I can't decide if it needs a name...I figure only if something seems magically perfect.

I'll also try to post pics of my mom's visit/my birthday this weekend, along with pics of my fabulous bed. Best idea ever to redo it. And trust me, it's worth spending a little more on bedding because I have never slept so good. I feel like I am sleeping on clouds. I'll talk more about my bed when I post a pic and give my new bed advice.

OK, time to start working soon. Happy Friday the 13th!!

Day 255 - Best First Date!

I went out with the Brit! The date lasted almost 8 hours. It was so much fun.

Recap:

We met at a pub in our area to have some beer and play darts.

He's got the cutest, most genuine smile.

There was definitely some awkward first date stuff, in fact, I think he was maybe a little nervous, which is really nice.

I told him a bit about what I do and then I accidentally found out he recently got laid off. Ouch. I didn't ask any more about it or work because I don't think that's probably something he wants to talk about on a first date. It doesn't bother me because hey, I haven't had the best career going for me at all times, but I hope he doesn't think it bothers me.

We then played darts, sat and talked, played darts, sat and talked, met some good dart players, learned a new dart game, played, talked, went and grabbed pizza, and then he walked me home.

So what have I learned about him? He went to school at Elon (a school I looked at once) for two years and then transferred to NC Chapel Hill, born in Buffalo then went to school for two years in Saudi Arabia (yes, weird) then lived in Ohio, lives with 4 (!) other people (in a house, but no idea if he has his own room, surely...), has played just about every sport (soccer, volleyball, surfing, basketball, track, and even can play tennis a bit!), has been to Italy, France, England, Australia and maybe more (can't remember), has siblings and at least one nephew (who he helped teach basketball to), is competitive (!), has had girlfriends (I know, random, but it's always good to know that someone has dated, it's a weird thing of mine), voted for Obama (phew), has a dad who is a chemist, blah blah blah.

He paid for everything, except my first drink because I got there first even though we were both late.

He had driven down, but had parked his car safely and offered to walk me home. And yes, we made out a bit in front of my door like we were in high school or something. Thank god for neighbors who don't go out past 11pm.

Oh! And he was a total gentleman, didn't ask to come in and never asked me to come over.

Then after he left he sent me a text that said he had such a great time with me, etc. Geeze, I'm in for it now.

Basically it was really great and he made me laugh and I'm excited to see him again.


Then today:

I ran into Neighbor. It was...weird? Well, he was out talking with one of our neighbors so I was kind of interrupting in a way. The convo was short and there really wasn't much to say. He said he was going to tell me more about his 19-year-old stalker sometime, which made me realize just how inconsiderate he's been lately. He said he wanted to grab a drink sometime, not this week, but next week. I didn't have much to say to him. Maybe we'll be friends? I don't know.


So much that I left out about the Brit, but come on, I can't write a novel on here. I'm sure there will be more to say.

Day 254 - Hang In There!

I am dying to write a nice, long blog. No time!! I will update this weekend, no matter what!

OK, sleep tight blog. I miss you!!

Day 253 - Yikes! Hi!

I know, sooooo long since I've written.

My mom was here and just left this morning. And I turned 26!

I really can't write much because I have work to do. So much work. Here is a quick breakdown.

Work: Good. Busy. Taking on a lot with the new job.

Birthday: So much fun. Got nails done. Had martinis. Wonderful wishes and presents from my family.

Mom's visit: Crazy fun. Wandered around Hollywood. Went to a comedy show. Had hot dogs at Pink's.

Boys: OK, my mom found me a guy. Went out to the local bar and met a guy. Then the next morning he was at the same place as us for breakfast. Details - musician, lives in my area, has a slight British accent, great teeth...basically way cooler than me. Exchanged numbers and Legal Eagle and I have devised a plan of action. And for now, I will refer to him as the Brit. Oh, and Neighbor didn't wish me a happy birthday. Major fail.

Other: Everything is really good. 26 is off to a great start.

Now I have to get back to work. I'll try to get pics from my mom and update when I have time, but it's going to be an insane week.